Coaching is not magical, and is not rocket science.  The fundamentals of it go back to the beginning of humanity – we thrive when we are in an environment which is supportive and provides us the opportunity to openly express our hopes, disappointments and frustrations.

The most important tool in coaching is dialogue.  It is a conversation between you and your coach.  It is not just any conversation though.

• The dialogue is intentional, meaning that it has a clear focus and direction. 
• The dialogue is about you.  You do not have to worry about hurting your coach’s feelings or treading on his toes.
• The dialogue is confidential and non-judgemental. 
• The dialogue is underpinned by a bed of knowledge and research.  Your coach is trained to identify clues which can lead you to a much greater understanding of your situation.
• The dialogue is supportive.  It is intended to help you to realise your potential.

Is coaching a modern trend?

In the past, the need for dialogue was met by village elders, religious leaders, or other senior members of a community.  These people held wisdom and experience.

Our modern societies place less emphasis on the importance of these roles.  Of course, we have friends, colleagues and families who we may be able to share our troubles and hopes with.  Unfortunately many are not trained to fully listen, they may provide advice when we really just want to be heard, and they do not know how to encourage the difficult thoughts which our hiding just below our surface.

Coaching has grown in popularity as people increasingly realise it meets our need for effective dialogue.